Confrontation, when appropriate and respectful, isn’t bad! Learning this has been one of the key parts of my life - because most of the time, people DO have different perspectives and it’s all about communication. If we all thought the same way, we wouldn’t have half of the beauty and creativity that takes place in the world.
Read MoreWell, that’s just grief exactly, isn’t it? Not the lack of gratitude by any means, but the acknowledgement of what has once been. The what could have beens, particularly in my (read: our) own timing. It doesn’t quite fit the bill of sanctification or nostalgia nor something so terribly simple as “loss,” but is still characterized by all of those feelings. I feel a lot of it these days: the deep complexities of life I wish I could put an exact finger on. Maybe one day, I will. I felt it when mum and Alexandrea were here: the ache of lost days gone by even as they were standing next to me overlooking Palm Beach, even as they sat in the morning drinking our coffee like any other day - a gratitude existing alongside grief in almost near-harmony.
Here’s my thought: maybe it’s because gratitude and grief must co-exist.
Read MoreThere’s a bit of wild that exists and takes place in all of us, between the letting go and the holding with tightly grasped fingers to all we know and hold dear. I’m in that space right now, figuring it out day by day, marking it with art, cities, people, jobs, and new eyeglasses called perception (or perspective change #wemeetagain)...transformation through my soul seasons. Feeling change; people change; but if we made it through our entire lives to be in this moment, then there is faithfulness from God to meet us here, & in the next moment too.
Read MoreDear 2022: you were beautiful. And rough + tumble; & a year of finding belonging & unraveling what that means all over again. You were “on the brink.” One of accomplishment and gratitude, and also one that reminded me (as an adult) how much I need community and a healthy dose of therapy to actually get through it all & still be wildly and freely ‘me’ and in childlike wonder, to still be madly in love with life.
Read MoreIf you’re finding yourself mistyping on a regular basis, or even caught between two or three or more types - never fear! There’s a few different things to consider. And if you have a few people in your life that maybe swing back and forth between types, that’s okay - they’re also on their own journey, and they have just as much to learn and garner from their own experience after all. Whether you’re figuring yourself out, or trying to find an answer for someone who happens to think they’re a 3w8 (bless your heart) or a mix of a type seven and type four, there’s a few different explanations to help you in your journey.
Read MoreThere is a fearlessness about children that I encounter on the daily that I still remember is tucked away within my adult body. Perhaps some may say that it’s chasing youth, and maybe in a way it is, but the truth is I often feel that weight of the lack of time in my life (long-term, as my “late twenties” approach and the world suddenly seems more daunting that even I’d care to recognize). Caught between the desire to dream big dreams, but also keep it all as simple as I can, it’s easiest for us to wrap up a hectic work day and drop dead on the couch, switching off our brains to veg out on whatever might do it for us…and in all of this, I ask my flatmates, “Hey, how was your day? How are you?”
But I never ask myself.
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